Author: jakedavis1910

Daily Attitude Email 5 15 14

Andy Stanley – empty my cup

My job is not to fill other people’s cups, it is to empty mine.

It will never be enough to fill theirs, but it allows all the good stuff to get put back into yours.

At last week’s LeaderCast, Andy Stanley shared an interesting analogy that I thought was really important for us to understand.

My paraphrase for what he said: My job is not to fill other people’s cups, it is to empty mine. It will never be enough to fill theirs, but it allows all the good stuff to get put back into yours.

He was speaking specifically about leadership, but I think it might just be true for all relationships.

Our job is fill our cup with positive thoughts, emotions, feelings and activities.

Then pour those out on others.

Not because we are filling their cup, but because we want to add to the happiness of those we care about.

Our happiness does not depend on others around us, it depends on the level to which we do our best to serve and love them.

We must do our best out of service and love, that is the only part we control.

Is there a relationship in your life where the other person’s happiness (or lack thereof) control’s too much of yours?

Make it a great day.

Jake ​

Daily Attitude Email 5 14 14

It is not the employer who pays the wages. Employers only handle the money. It is the customer who pays the wages. – Henry Ford

In honor of Small Business Week, I thought I would write something unique to small businesses. As I was thinking about what is positive and special about small businesses, I thought of this quote from Henry Ford.

Part of the magic of small business is that there are less steps between the customer who pays the wages and those who earn those wages.

The smaller the organization, the smaller the gap.

And the more closely tied are the wages and the work, the more those doing the work want and strive to deliver value.

When you put good people in a position to succeed, the results are always amazing.

Make it a great day.

Jake ​

Daily Attitude Email 5 13 14

You can’t selectively numb emotions. – Brene Brown

After hearing about Brene Brown in the training we received a few weeks ago, I went out and found and listened to her TED Talks.

I think this quote came from her talk on vulnerability: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.

The idea that we can’t selectively numb emotions really struck with me. I couldn’t shake the idea that the reason so many spend their lives in mediocrity might be that they have chosen to numb themselves as a result of some bad experience.

Whether we numb ourselves with a serious dependency like drugs or with something seemingly innocent like cupcakes (hey, what’s he got against cupcakes?), the result is the same: we also can’t feel as much joy and happiness in the good moments.

And maybe when we can’t feel as much joy in the moments of our highest triumphs, we don’t work so hard for them, or maybe their just not worth it.

Then we settle.

We settle for less joy because it means less pain.

We settle for less money because it means less risk.

We settle for less relationship because it means less heartbreak.

We settle for less life because we might lose ours.

Hopefully this TED talk can serve as a wake up call for you (if you needed one, or a good reminder if you needed one of those). Are you not allowing yourself to be vulnerable enough to really reach your potential?

Make it a great day.

Jake

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Daily Attitude Email 5 12 14

The natural state of motherhood is unselfishness. When you become a mother, you are no longer the center of your own universe. You relinquish that position to your children. – Jessica Lange

What a great quote about motherhood.

I’ve never been a mother, but it seems to me that there is a magical moment (it happened with our three the moment they were born) where a mother stops being a regular person and starts being a mom.

A moment when a woman makes a decision to always put their little ones needs before their own, or at the very least realizes that that’s how it should be.

In this way, motherhood serves as an example of what human beings are capable of.

By placing the needs of their children first, mothers are capable of amazing things.

Getting very little sleep.

Always eating last.

Eyes in the back of their head.

Holding down two jobs.

Monumental acts of strength while protecting their children.

Mothers serve as proof of how great each of us can be when we live and love selflessly.

Make it a great day.

Jake ​

Daily Attitude Email 5 8 14

Today I thought I would share the advice below about being better at your job.

Make it a great day.

Jake

How do you get better at your job?  By Harvey Mackay

When I am hired to speak to a company or association, I typically talk ahead of time to six to eight people who will be in the audience to get a better sense of the group. I ask them a series of questions about creative selling, teamwork, negotiations, how they get close to their customers and so on. Then I surprise them and ask what they do to get better at their jobs?

Over the years some of the typical answers I’ve received include: going back to school to learn new skills or get another degree, joining trade organizations and attending events, networking, listening to speakers, reading everything they can get their hands on, being more available, working harder and smarter, improving people skills and many more.         

These are all great ideas, but I’d like to add to the list and share some of my ideas on what you can do to get better at your job.

1. Improve your time management. Most people fail because they let time manage them rather than managing their time. Time becomes a crook. Often it’s the people who make the worst use of their time who complain there is never enough of it.

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3. 1.Get organized. This will not only improve your productivity, but it will streamline your life, lower your stress and save you money. The Wall Street Journal reported that the average U.S. executive wastes six weeks per year retrieving misplaced information from messy desks and files. (I’m still working on this.)

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5. 2. Stay positive. Positive thinking is more than just a tagline; it changes the way we behave. And I firmly believe that when I’m positive, it not only makes me better, but it also makes those around me better. Positive thinking turns obstacles into opportunities.

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7. 3. Write down your goals. Goals not only give you more than a reason to get up in the morning; they are an incentive to keep you going all day. Goals tend to tap the deeper resources and draw the best out of life. Achieving goals produces significant accomplishments.

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10. 4. Learn to compromise. When you observe the politics in Washington, compromise appears to be a lost art. Maybe that’s because it often is looked upon as weakness. Nothing could be further from the truth. Business involves constant compromise – negotiating contracts, hiring, closing sales and so on. Compromise is the art of dividing a cake in such a way that each party thinks they got the biggest piece.

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13. 5. Exercise your mind and body. Taking care of business starts with taking care of yourself. Exercise makes me feel better and gives me energy to work more productively. My philosophy is exercise doesn’t take time; it makes time.

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15. 6. Develop your confidence. Confidence doesn’t come naturally to most people. Even the most successful people have struggled with it in their careers. The good news is that you can develop confidence just like any muscle or character trait. Some tips: improve your skills, keep track of your success, practice being assertive and step out of your comfort zone.

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17. 7. Improve your relationship with your boss. A good relationship with your boss is the foundation of a successful career. Your boss is the person most likely to recognize your contributions and achievements and potentially recommend you for promotions. Strive for a positive work environment.

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19. 8. Surround yourself with mentors and coaches. You can’t do it all by yourself. Seek out the very best help you can find to take your game to the next level. On the flip side, don’t shy away from mentoring younger workers because business is a team sport.

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21. 9. Practice public speaking. Most people dread public speaking but there are few skills more important. Public speaking improves your confidence and communication skills and helps you think better on your feet. How you say things can be as important as what you say. Join Toastmasters International, one of the best-kept secrets in the world. (I did.)

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23. 10. Learn to love feedback. You can learn from anyone if you are open to accepting feedback from not only your manager but from colleagues and customers. If you really believe in yourself, you’ll be open to criticism, learn from it and improve your performance.

The main thing is that you keep working on you. Life is like riding a bicycle. You don’t fall off unless you stop pedaling.

Daily Attitude Email 5 7 14

If you are unwilling to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary. – Jim Rohn

Ordinary. Normal. Everybody else is doing it.

We have all wished for or strived for these things at one point or another. Whether it be to fit in or to feel loved or to relieve some of our own insecurities and anxieties; we purposefully looked for and strived for normal and ordinary.

One of the great tragedies of life is coming to the end of it having not lived all of it. Having not been the most truest version of you possible.

The scary part is that the awesomest version of you is NOT normal. Not even close.

In fact, I would venture to say that the potential of our inherent abilities is so overwhelmingly different that we get a little scared. A little scared to live out the life uniquely set before us.

We must be willing to risk unusual or settle for ordinary.

We choose. Life doesn’t choose for us.

What’s your choice?

Make it a great and unusual day.

Jake ​

Daily Attitude Email 5 6 14

What do I have?

What am I going to do with it?

I was listening to a podcast the other day and the speaker asked some versions of these two questions.

What a powerful and positive way to look at your life.

We all have some resources available to us.

We all have talents, relationships, and knowledge we can use in our pursuit of happiness.

We just need to leverage them. To use them as a tool to do more than we could otherwise do.

I encourage you today to think through these two questions. Maybe even write them out.

And then take action. Take a positive step forward today.

Make it a great day.

Jake ​

Daily Attitude Email 5 5 14

In "The Best Question Ever" Andy Stanley addresses time and how we spend it as he helps the readers work through asking the best question ever.

He summarizes time and how we spend it in 4 points:

  1. There is a cumulative value to investing small amounts of time in certain activities over a long period.
  2. There are rarely any immediate consequences for neglecting single installments of time in any arena of life.
  3. Neglect has a cumulative effect.
  4. There is no cumulative value to the urgent things that we allow to interfere with the important things.

Are you struggling with time?

Too busy to get to the important stuff in your life?

Too busy to get to the important people in your life?

Andy’s best question ever might just help. Andy contends that the best question ever is: "What is the wise thing to do?"

The way to apply this to your time is simply to ask "What is the wise way to spend my time?"

Another way to look at it would be to analyze your current use of time. "Am I spending my time wisely?" or "If a wise person were to see how I spend my time, would they suggest any changes?"

Make it a great day.

Jake

PS – A little trick when it comes to time. Track your time for a week. Write down everything and how long you spend doing it. At the end of the week review the results. I am guessing you will see at least one possibility for a positive change to make. ​