Daily Attitude Email

Daily Attitude Email 12 28 11

Today’s email is a follow up to all the Christmas emails.

Something I noticed this Christmas when we spent time with our family.

The world doesn’t stop on Christmas, but it does slow down.

And what happens when it slows down, we see what is important.

We see that gifts don’t matter. Thinking of others does.

We see that getting from point A to point B quickly isn’t important, but that our time is limited so we need to make the most of it.

We see that our family isn’t a bunch of crazy people. They are a group of people with potential for love and happiness.

We don’t count people as present to buy, but as lives we can influence for the better.

We don’t see harried shoppers trying to get everything done in time. We see smiles and laughter that can light up a room.

They say we need to stop and smell the roses. Maybe stopping isn’t necessary, maybe all we need to do is slow down a little and appreciate what we see when we do.

Jake

Daily Attitude Email 12 27 11

Welcome back after the long holiday weekend.

I have been reading Robinson Crusoe lately and there was one line from the book that I thought I would share.

“It cost me a prodigious deal of pains, but who grudges pains that have their deliverance in view?”

He was talking about the ridiculous amount of effort he had to put in to build a canoe with essentially now tools and no prior knowledge on how to do it. Several times throughout the book he spends months and even years building or working on something like this.

But he kept doing it. Why? Because he had his deliverance in view. He was motivated.

We all need to find that thing inside us that will motivates us through any of life’s “prodigious pains” towards our “deliverance”.

Something that will motivate us to give up present purchases for future financial security and wealth.

Something that will motivate us to make a good food choice today in exchange for a healthy future self.

Something will motivate us to exercise today in order to lose weight or get fit.

I think I have sent this out before, but every time I send something out about motivation I am reminded of Anthony Robbins. He said something like “Success is a well defined process, I don’t focus on that, I work with people to find what will motivate them to follow that process.”

We can and will endure prodigious pains when we have our deliverance in view.

I encourage you to think about what motivates you. Keep this in mind as we get closer to the New Year and you get ready to make those New Year’s resolutions. Make sure they are all backed by this motivation.

Make it a great week.

Jake

Daily Attitude Email 12 22 11

One last Christmas story and song for everyone.

Hope everyone has safe travels and a very Merry Christmas.

Jake

http://youtu.be/IirR7z_024Q

A Christmas Story

It’s just a small, white envelope stuck among the branches of our Christmas tree. No name, no identification, no inscription. It has peeked through the branches of our tree for the past 10 years or so.

It all began because my husband Mike hated Christmas—oh, not the true meaning of Christmas, but the commercial aspects of it-overspending…the frantic running around at the last minute to get a tie for Uncle Harry and the dusting powder for Grandma—the gifts given in desperation because you couldn’t think of anything else.

Knowing he felt this way, I decided one year to bypass the usual shirts, sweaters, ties and so forth. I reached for something special just for Mike. The inspiration came in an unusual way.

Our son Kevin, who was 12 that year, was wrestling at the junior level at the school he attended; and shortly before Christmas, there was a non-league match against a team sponsored by an inner-city church.

These youngsters, dressed in sneakers so ragged that shoestrings seemed to be the only thing holding them together, presented a sharp contrast to our boys in their spiffy blue and gold uniforms and sparkling new wrestling shoes.

As the match began, I was alarmed to see that the other team was wrestling without headgear, a kind of light helmet designed to protect a wrestler’s ears.

It was a luxury the ragtag team obviously could not afford. Well, we ended up walloping them. We took every weight class. And as each of their boys got up from the mat, he swaggered around in his tatters with false bravado, a kind of street pride that couldn’t acknowledge defeat.

Mike, seated beside me, shook his head sadly, "I wish just one of them could have won," he said. "They have a lot of potential, but losing like this could take the heart right out of them."

Mike loved kids-all kids-and he knew them, having coached little league football, baseball and lacrosse. That’s when the idea for his present came.

That afternoon, I went to a local sporting goods store and bought an assortment of wrestling headgear and shoes and sent them anonymously to the inner-city church.

On Christmas Eve, I placed the envelope on the tree, the note inside telling Mike what I had done and that this was his gift from me.

His smile was the brightest thing about Christmas that year and in succeeding years.

For each Christmas, I followed the tradition—one year sending a group of mentally handicapped youngsters to a hockey game, another year a check to a pair of elderly brothers whose home had burned to the ground the week before Christmas, and on and on.

The envelope became the highlight of our Christmas. It was always the last thing opened on Christmas morning and our children, ignoring their new toys, would stand with wide-eyed anticipation as their dad lifted the envelope from the tree to reveal it’s contents.

As the children grew, the toys gave way to more practical presents, but the envelope never lost its allure. The story doesn’t end there.

You see, we lost Mike last year due to dreaded cancer. When Christmas rolled around, I was still so wrapped in grief that I barely got the tree up. But Christmas Eve found me placing an envelope on the tree, and in the morning, it was joined by three more. Each of our children, unbeknownst to the others, had placed an envelope on the tree for their dad.

The tradition has grown and someday will expand even further with our grandchildren standing around the tree with wide-eyed anticipation watching as their fathers take down the envelope. Mike’s spirit, like the Christmas spirit, will always be with us.

May we all remember each other, and the Real reason for the season, and His true spirit this year and always. God bless—pass this along to your friends and loved ones.

— Copyright © 1982 Nancy W. Gavin

— Submitted by Edwin G. Whiting

The story first appeared in Woman’s Day magazine in 1982. My mom had sent the story in as a contest entry in which she subsequently won first place. Unfortunately, she passed away from cancer two years after the story was published. Our family still keeps the tradition started by her and my father and we have passed it on to our children. Feel free to use the story. It gives me and my sisters great joy to know that it lives on and has hopefully inspired others to reach out in a way that truly honors the spirit of Christmas. — Kevin Gavin

Daily Attitude Email 12 21 11

Another Christmas song to listen to while reading a Christmas story:

http://youtu.be/xf8db3Vz95I

A Christmas story (thanks to Dan for posting on the FaceBox and telling me about it):

The young father stood in line at the Kmartlayaway counter, wearing dirty clothes and worn-out boots. With him were three small children.

He asked to pay something on his bill because he knew he wouldn’t be able to afford it all before Christmas. Then a mysterious woman stepped up to the counter.

"She told him, ‘No, I’m paying for it,’" recalled Edna Deppe, assistant manager at the store in Indianapolis. "He just stood there and looked at her and then looked at me and asked if it was a joke. I told him it wasn’t, and that she was going to pay for him. And he just busted out in tears."

At Kmart stores across the country, Santa seems to be getting some help: Anonymous donors are paying off strangers’ layaway accounts, buying the Christmas gifts other families couldn’t afford, especially toys and children’s clothes set aside by impoverished parents.

Before she left the store Tuesday evening, the Indianapolis woman in her mid-40s had paid the layaway orders for as many as 50 people. On the way out, she handed out $50 bills and paid for two carts of toys for a woman in line at the cash register.

"She was doing it in the memory of her husband who had just died, and she said she wasn’t going to be able to spend it and wanted to make people happy with it," Deppe said. The woman did not identify herself and only asked people to "remember Ben," an apparent reference to her husband.

Deppe, who said she’s worked in retail for 40 years, had never seen anything like it.

"It was like an angel fell out of the sky and appeared in our store," she said.

Most of the donors have done their giving secretly.

Dona Bremser, an Omaha nurse, was at work when a Kmart employee called to tell her that someone had paid off the $70 balance of her layaway account, which held nearly $200 in toys for her 4-year-old son.

"I was speechless," Bremser said. "It made me believe in Christmas again."

Dozens of other customers have received similar calls in Nebraska, Michigan, Iowa, Indiana and Montana.

The benefactors generally ask to help families who are squirreling away items for young children. They often pay a portion of the balance, usually all but a few dollars or cents so the layaway order stays in the store’s system.

The phenomenon seems to have begun in Michigan before spreading, Kmart executives said.

"It is honestly being driven by people wanting to do a good deed at this time of the year," said Salima Yala, Kmart’s division vice president for layaway.

The good Samaritans seem to be visiting mainly Kmart stores, though a Wal-Mart spokesman said a few of his stores in Joplin, Mo., and Chicago have also seen some layaway accounts paid off.

Kmart representatives say they did nothing to instigate the secret Santas or spread word of the generosity. But it’s happening as the company struggles to compete with chains such as Wal-Mart and Target.

Kmart may be the focus of layaway generosity, Yala said, because it is one of the few large discount stores that has offered layaway year-round for about four decades. Under the program, customers can make purchases but let the store hold onto their merchandise as they pay it off slowly over several weeks.

The sad memories of layaways lost prompted at least one good Samaritan to pay off the accounts of five people at an Omaha Kmart, said Karl Graff, the store’s assistant manager.

"She told me that when she was younger, her mom used to set up things on layaway at Kmart, but they rarely were able to pay them off because they just didn’t have the money for it," Graff said.

He called a woman who had been helped, "and she broke down in tears on the phone with me. She wasn’t sure she was going to be able to pay off their layaway and was afraid their kids weren’t going to have anything for Christmas."

"You know, 50 bucks may not sound like a lot, but I tell you what, at the right time, it may as well be a million dollars for some people," Graff said.

Graff’s store alone has seen about a dozen layaway accounts paid off in the last 10 days, with the donors paying $50 to $250 on each account.

"To be honest, in retail, it’s easy to get cynical about the holidays, because you’re kind of grinding it out when everybody else is having family time," Graff said. "It’s really encouraging to see this side of Christmas again."

Lori Stearnes of Omaha also benefited from the generosity of a stranger who paid all but $58 of her $250 layaway bill for toys for her four youngest grandchildren.

Stearnes said she and her husband live paycheck to paycheck, but she plans to use the money she was saving for the toys to help pay for someone else’s layaway.

In Missoula, Mont., a man spent more than $1,200 to pay down the balances of six customers whose layaway orders were about to be returned to a Kmart store’s inventory because of late payments.

Store employees reached one beneficiary on her cellphone at Seattle Children’s Hospital, where her son was being treated for an undisclosed illness.

"She was yelling at the nurses, ‘We’re going to have Christmas after all!’" store manager Josine Murrin said.

A Kmart in Plainfield Township, Mich., called Roberta Carter last week to let her know a man had paid all but 40 cents of her $60 layaway.

Carter, a mother of eight from Grand Rapids, Mich., said she cried upon hearing the news. She and her family have been struggling as she seeks a full-time job.

"My kids will have clothes for Christmas," she said.

Angie Torres, a stay-at-home mother of four children under the age of 8, was in the Indianapolis Kmart on Tuesday to make a payment on her layaway bill when she learned the woman next to her was paying off her account.

"I started to cry. I couldn’t believe it," said Torres, who doubted she would have been able to pay off the balance. "I was in disbelief. I hugged her and gave her a kiss."

By Margery a. Beck, Associated Press

Daily Attitude Email 12 20 12

Thought I would add an extra element to the Christmas stories this week.

Each day I will also add a song to listen to while you read.

Here is today’s song:

http://youtu.be/nzqQdc8wljY

And here is today’s story:

THE GOLD WRAPPING PAPER – An Inspiring Christmas Story

Once upon a time, there was a man who worked very hard just to keep food on the table for his family. This particular year a few days before Christmas, he punished his little five-year-old daughter after learning that she had used up the family’s only roll of expensive gold wrapping paper.

As money was tight, he became even more upset when on Christmas Eve he saw that the child had used all of the expensive gold paper to decorate one shoebox she had put under the Christmas tree. He also was concerned about where she had gotten money to buy what was in the shoebox.

Nevertheless, the next morning the little girl, filled with excitement, brought the gift box to her father and said, "This is for you, Daddy!"

As he opened the box, the father was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, now regretting how he had punished her.

But when he opened the shoebox, he found it was empty and again his anger flared. "Don’t you know, young lady," he said harshly, "when you give someone a present, there’s supposed to be something inside the package!"

The little girl looked up at him with sad tears rolling from her eyes and whispered: "Daddy, it’s not empty. I blew kisses into it until it was all full."

The father was crushed. He fell on his knees and put his arms around his precious little girl. He begged her to forgive him for his unnecessary anger.

An accident took the life of the child only a short time later. It is told that the father kept this little gold box by his bed for all the years of his life. Whenever he was discouraged or faced difficult problems, he would open the box, take out an imaginary kiss, and remember the love of this beautiful child who had put it there.

In a very real sense, each of us has been given an invisible golden box filled with unconditional love and kisses from our children, family, friends and God. There is no more precious possession anyone could hold.

Merry Christmas.

Jake

Daily Attitude Email 12 19 11

For this week, I thought I would share a Christmas related positive story every day. If you have or know of one, send it to me and I will send it out.

“Norman Vincent Peale, noted minister and author from the previous century, tells the story of a young girl from Sweden spending Christmas in big, bustling New York City. She was living with an American family and helping them around the house, and she didn’t have much money. So she knew she couldn’t get them a very nice Christmas present – besides, they already had so much, with new gifts arriving every day.

With just a little money in her pocket, she went out and bought an outfit for a small baby, and then she set out on a journey to find the poorest part of town and the poorest baby she could find. At first, she received only strange looks from passersby when she asked them for help. But then a kind stranger, a Salvation Army bell-ringer, guided her to a poor part of town and helped her deliver her gift. On Christmas morning, instead of giving them a wrapped present, she told the family she served what she had done in their name. Everyone was speechless, and everyone was blessed – the girl for giving, the wealthy family for seeing others with new eyes, and the poor family for receiving an unexpected gift.

All of us have opportunities both large and small to show kindness, especially at Christmastime. We can help strangers by delivering gifts to needy kids or serving homeless families at a soup kitchen. Or we can simply look for everyday ways to be kind, like allowing someone to go ahead of us in a lengthy line at the department store, or giving that bell-ringer a little change and a few encouraging words.

Maybe it’s because we’re in gift-giving mode anyway that giving to others becomes so important at Christmas. Or because we’re more aware of our families and friends and communities. Or maybe it’s because two thousand years ago, the earth received the most perfect, most loving gift of all, helping us to understand true kindness.

Whatever the reason, don’t let Christmas pass you by without showing kindness to someone. Because it is truly more blessed to give than to receive.”

Jake

Daily Attitude Email 12 15 11

WWJD

What would Jesus do?

This simple abbreviation that has made its way onto everything from bracelets to tattoos is a reminder of an important part of the success process.

In order to become successful and achieve something we have yet to accomplish, we must act in ways that are different than how we currently act.

One of the ways of understanding how to act differently is to think in context of how someone else would act in a similar situation. In this example, Christians work to act in a way similar to how Jesus would in a similar situation.

Think about something in your life that you would like to achieve or do differently than you do today.

Want to lose weight? What would a skinny person do?

Want to become physically fit? What would an athlete do?

Want to become wealthy? What would a wealthy person do?

Want to become more self-disciplined? What would an achiever do?

Whatever your goals in life, I can assure you that there is someone out there who has done it before.

We need only seek out the stories of those people and emulate what they have done in order to have similar results. Find a book, an audio recording or a training course from someone to model yourself after and study it. Don’t just read or listen, study it.

Start the journey today of studying someone that has been succesful where you want to be successful.

Make it a great day.

Jake

Daily Attitude Email 11 23 11

Shout out to my friends at the M-A-V!

So what up all you wonderful Daily Attitude readers!

As, I am sitting here writing this I have a lot to be thankful for. A lot has happened since last Turkey Day: new job, new house, new girl etc…but none of those things would have happened if I didn’t have coworkers, friends and family who consistently challenged me and put me in a position to continually learn.

We work in a field that rapidly reinvents itself. I think that’s my favorite part of my job. What I do today will be different tomorrow. I have been incredibly fortunate to work in environments that challenged me to be better, to learn new things and solve problems in creative ways. That’s part of why I asked Jake to keep sending me these emails everyday. They challenge me to learn new ways to see the world around me. They are an opportunity to learn and push and reflect.

So, in summary, while I wouldn’t encourage you to throw out Grandma’s turkey recipe to learn how to do fusion cooking on thanksgiving day. I would encourage you to listen to what those around you have to say, and to be incredibly thankful to work in a field and for a company that encourages us all to learn, grow and be better people tomorrow than we are today. That is a rare gift and one worth cherishing.

Thanks again to Jake for letting me jump in and send this out!

Best,

John Hunt

The World Famous Jake Davis Daily Attitude Email (Tuesday fill in) 11 22 11

First and foremost, thanks to Jake for his dedication to this effort. It’s hard enough for me to remember to shave every day, not to mention send an inspiring email. I appreciate the opportunity to fill in for him while he is on vacation.

The last sentence of Sandy’s email from yesterday is an excellent place for me to start. As a reminder, here is how she ended…

“So today I will say I am very thankful for the many people in my life who always do their best to do the right things, for the right reasons, and hold me accountable to do the same.”

The word that I’m focused on is accountability. When I think of being held accountable, I immediately think of HTG. When I think of HTG, I’m thankful.

When I talk to prospective members of HTG, I find myself saying that “Joining HTG was the single best decision that I have made for my business.”

Most times when I say that, I feel like it sounds cliché or that I’m overstating the truth. To me, that statement is the best way for me to describe the impact that HTG has had on my life.

Here are a few examples:

HTG introduced me to The Go-Giver.

HTG has changed the way I interact with my co-workers.

HTG has helped me be a leader.

HTG has changed the way I interact with my clients.

HTG has taught me how to trust and believe in others.

The members of HTG15 demonstrate that they care about me.

My best friends are all HTG members.

This list is just a beginning, and nothing on this list has to do with margins, profits or sales.

HTG is about people, relationships and giving.

This Thanksgiving, I’m appreciative and thankful for the friendships and relationships that HTG has provided for me.

If you are reading this, that means you.

Thanks for making a difference in my life.

Brian

Brian O’Shaughnessy

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Daily Attitude (Jake replacement :)) 11 21 11

(I am not quite sure if I am sending to the appropriate list serve. Please feel free to forward on if someone has a better list)

Thanks to Jake for allowing me to participate in the daily attitude e-mail. Jake had suggested following a theme of “what we are thankful for” with it being Thanksgiving week. I think this as a great suggestion…which I will follow with a bit of an editorial commentary on my part.

I typically shy away from writing editorial type content or engaging in those types of discussions. I save those thoughts for conversations over wine or runs (and only with selected friends). But today I feel compelled to write on a topic that is on everyone’s mind with the news circulating around us. Social media, blogs and Internet outlets are buzzing on who looked the other way at Penn State, Herman Cain’s alleged indiscretions, and all the other daily news feeds on unethical and immoral behavior. Even the PollyAnna’s like me who avoid talk radio and controversial conversation are scratching their heads wondering how good people (by all appearances…I won’t be the judge on those I haven’t met) make such poor choices.

Rather than belaboring the fact patterns as already reported in the news outlets; I will simply ask the question of why we as humans have such a hard time just doing the right thing. What happened to the simple rules we learned as children…tell the truth, own your mistakes, and always do the right thing? But instead…what a tangled web we weave. Yes, pride and ego will bring the greatest of men (and women) to their knees.

A man I completely respect for his passion for doing all that is right and his dedication to leading others in faith is Fr. Okhouya Kizito, a priest at my church. Kizito was raised in a poor community in Africa. His childhood experience included worries on running water and a school with a roof with no knowledge of growing up the American way with reality TV, video games, and social privilege. The innocence in his faith principles and avoidance of a commercialized existence, present a raw purity to a man with no false pretenses on differentiating between acceptable and unacceptable behavior. In a recent sermon, Fr. Kizito talked about this specific issue and he boiled it down the principle that we as humans all know the difference between right and wrong. It is that simple. Take out all the noise and excuses, and we can all apply this simple question to every choice we make in life. Is it the right thing to do? Life would be so much more fulfilling for all of us if we challenged ourselves to follow this simple principle each day and with each action.

And we are human. We do make mistakes and bad decisions. The key then is how we handle them, correct them, and learn from them. It really all just boils down to doing the right thing and it is our own individual free that guides how we handling our failings. Coach P made a bad choice and then when given time to reflect and correct, he choose not to. Already big problems turned into a colossally big problem with people’s lives irreparably hurt and humans damaged.

I always tell my sons that lying is bad. Little lies can turn into big problems. Just like compromising our decision making in what seems small at the time can turn into BIG problems that not only cause embarrassment, but impact lives of many people (drunk driving leading to injury, passing the buck on an wrongful act for someone else to handle…the list goes on and on). The significance to the choice at the time does not have a direct correlation to the size of the problem it creates. In the case of Joe P, I am sure there was a point that he knew he made a bad choice. It takes a big man (or woman) to realize this human failing after the fact. And it takes enormous character for that man or woman to correct their failing with all at stake. Think through your own life circumstances where you saw this play out big or small…a boss who recognizes a mess up that can cost a company a customer, but takes the responsibility and owns it with the client. How about a politician who realizes they made a bad vote in the past and now simply says, I made a mistake and I know better now? How refreshing would this be rather than in-fighting, covering up with excuses, play of words, and the very typically response of avoidance? Yes ego and pride are our greatest distracters in following the principle of applying right from wrong. When you put yourself first; differentiation between right and wrong no longer matters.

So how does all of this apply to the daily attitude today? I am of the belief that we are all people with significance in this world. Kim Kardasisomething means nothing, but the people who subscribe to this e-mail mean everything. We are the real players in the game of life. It starts with us…in our homes, at our work, in our communities. We need to do the right things and challenge each other when human failings happen (and they will happen). So today I will say I am very thankful for the many people in my life who always do their best to do the right things, for the right reasons, and hold me accountable to do the same.

Sandy Lane, CPA

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