Friday Morning Toe Tapper

https://youtu.be/jYa1eI1hpDE

The Davis ladies have been listening to a lot of Taylor Swift lately and this one stood out to me.

Mean people exist. Evil is real.

Taylor pokes fun at the idea of showing up the mean people by doing well, which is a good starting point.

This song also reminded me of an idea from Andy Stanley – “do for one what you wish you could do for everyone”.

Mean people leave pain behind. Pain we see in the people we interact with every day.

We can’t eradicate all the mean people or bad things in this world, but we can come alongside one person, be with them in real relationship and hopefully help the healing process.

An example – Meaghan has been substitute teaching the last two years. She’s come home with stories about how she connected with or helped some young student who was struggling. She hasn’t eradicated bullying or teenage meanness, but she has made a difference in the lives of some young people.

Be on the look out – you’ll be presented with an opportunity to so something similar.

Make it a great day.

Jake

PS – There is one true source of healing and peace in the face of the mean and evil of this world – Jesus Christ. He is the only true and lasting answer.

Daily Attitude Email 07 28 22

You won’t be happy if you don’t produce. – Jim Rohn

Leisure and rest are not the point. Producing and leaving things better than you found them is.

Jim Rohn talks about the seed, the soil, the rain and the sunshine. References to his growing up on a small farm.

The farm is a great metaphor for being productive and being a good steward.

Being productive is an important element in our quest for happiness and success.

Are you letting the seed, soil, rain and sunshine in your life go to waste or are using it to produce?

Make it a great day.

Jake

Daily Attitude Email 07 27 22

We spent yesterday at Niagara Falls with the family.

It was such a great reminder of the power and beauty of nature.

It was also a great reminder of what man is capable of when we work with nature.

It was a good chance for an attitude adjustment.

To look for the beauty and life that surrounds us every day.

To realize that it will be here long after me and my job is steward my life and time the best I can while I’m here.

Make it a great day.

Jake

Daily Attitude Email 07 26 22

https://youtu.be/pDKiMYgdxSs

Every time I go on vacation I think of this scene from What About Bob.

A vacation from your problems.

Sometimes if we take a break from worrying about something, it reveals itself as something not worth worrying about.

Not that the worries and anxieties of life can just be swept under the rug, but if you view them from a new angle you can see them for what they are.

Make it a great day.

Jake

Daily Attitude Email 07 25 22

You have succeeded in life when all you really want is only what you really need. – Vernon Howard

There’s a part of me that disagrees with this quote.

Sure – part of the secret of contentment is being happy with what you have.

But what do to with the drive to do better?

How do you strike the balance between managing your desires and your desires managing you?

We seem to have been built to seek out goals and purpose and making things better.

We also seem prone to buying into marketing and comparison and letting them steal our joy.

No answers to this one for you….just a few questions for you to think about.

In the end, you get to pick….for you.

What do you want? How much contentment? How much striving and purposeful effort?

Make it a great day.

Jake

Friday Morning Toe Tapper

https://youtu.be/I62-KcD2H8Y

Hopefully a good laugh for both the introverts and extroverts in the group.

Understanding ourselves and those we love gives us the opportunity to show empathy towards other and patience with ourselves.

We can be more patient and kind when we understand whether someone is introverted.

We can be more aware of our day and what we choose to do in response to our natural tendencies.

Make it a great day.

Jake

PS – Awareness is not an excuse to only do things the way you prefer. It’s not a blank check for excuses to only do what you want.

Daily Attitude Email 07 20 22

Today is Maggie’s 16th birthday.

Teaching Maggie to drive has been an experience in patience and empathy.

She’s full of the enthusiasm and desire for independence that most teenagers have. She’s ready to spread her wings and be her own person.

But the parents….not….quite…..ready. It’s a story as old as time. Parents learning to let go and kids trying to break free.

We watch this wonderful person and (think) we see all the future possibilities and want to have our hands on the steering wheel but have to let go. It’s harder than I thought it would be….

I feel so lucky and blessed to have such a good kid and to have had good parents who cared enough to struggle through all of this on my behalf.

It’s a good reminder that some haven’t been so lucky. We run into people every day and everywhere for whom this process didn’t go as well as it could have. Let’s remember to be as patient and kind with them as we all wished (or were lucky enough to have experienced) for from those in our lives.

God is good and I’m so very thankful that I get to be Maggie’s dad. She sure has taught me a lot.

Make it a great day.

Jake

PS – NOW ACCEPTING – any and all advice on parenting a teenage driver.

Daily Attitude Email 07 19 22

Be truthful, nature only sides with truth. – Adolf Loos

One of Jordan Peterson’s 12 Rules is – “Don’t Lie”.

Nature is on the side of the person who sticks with this rule.

I try to think of it like physics – we can’t argue with or ignore gravity or heat or cold. We can only work with them. The more we work with them and their inherent principles, the more likely the preferred outcomes are to occur.

Same with telling the truth.

Maybe we can get away with a little lying, in the short run, but in the long run – it will come around. Just like gravity – airplanes and rockets can temporarily overcome gravity (but they burn a lot of energy).

Be careful to be more truthful this week. Try to pay attention to the opportunities to bend or shape the truth.

Make it a great day.

Jake