Daily Attitude Email 06 18 20

Choose your love, Love your choice. – Thomas S. Monson

Another great lesson learned after 18 years of marriage – love is a choice.

It’s a choice to take action.

To put another before yourself.

Marriage isn’t the only place this matters.

It matters with work.

It matters with team mates.

It matters with friends.

All represent an opportunity to choose love. To choose selfless action over selfish desires.

Let’s choose our loves carefully, then love those choices.

Make it a great day.

Jake

Daily Attitude Email 06 16 20

https://youtu.be/Yr7Wkz7W7Vs

In this video by Tony Robbins, he asks “what kinds of questions are you asking yourself?”

Are you asking yourself questions like:

Why am I so fat?

Why don’t I have any friends?

When am I going to get it together?

Instead, you must learn to ask yourself positive questions. Questions that allow you to take responsibility for your actions and lead to action in a positive direction.

What can I do today to lose weight?

What can I do today to create a new relationship?

What book can I read to learn to get more organized?

We must learn to ask ourselves the right questions if we are to find the answers we are searching for.

Make it a great day.

Jake

Daily Attitude Email 06 15 20

There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage. – Martin Luther

Meaghan and I had our 18th wedding anniversary over the weekend.

Every time I see a couple post one of these milestones, it reminds of the something special that a good marriage is.

Marriage is a unique opportunity for those that engage in it.

Essentially, you sign up to spend the rest of your life placing another person’s before your own. Sure, you sign up for this when you become a parent as well, but you have to live with your spouse for the rest of your life.

I believe more and more each day that our happiness lies in those moments when we can be of service to others and to place our own needs behind that of another’s.

Marriage is a lifetime of those opportunities.

And for those that seize that opportunity, it is a lifetime of bliss.

I am sure even the best marriages miss most of those opportunities, but I am also sure that they capitalize on far more than the average marriage.

I am thankful every time I hear or see of someone reaching a major milestone year with their marriage, because it reminds that it can be done. It is possible to put another’s needs before our own, to let go of that selfish side of ourselves in order to love another better.

Seize the opportunity to be of service today.

Make it a great day.

Jake

Bonus point – when you see someone who reaches a milestone like this, seek out any wisdom you can get. Ask them questions. Ask them to mentor you.

Bonus point 2 – for the singles only – practice, practice, practice. Want to find a spouse? Want to be a better husband/wife when you do get married? Practice, practice, practice. Find others to serve and serve them. Find a way to put others first and do it. ​

Daily Attitude Email 06 11 20

“Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on; you knew that those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently He starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make any sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of – throwing out a new wing here, putting on an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were being made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palace. He intends to come and live in it Himself.”

― C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

This is one of my favorite ideas from Mere Christianity.

This quote reminded me a lot of the ideas sent out in these daily attitude emails every day.

A big part of changing for the better is letting go of what we are currently.

At some point we must be willing to tear down our current habits and idiosyncrasies.

It’s hard. It’s painful. It isn’t much fun.

We want to change, but maybe aren’t quite ready to let go of ourselves and our ego in the process.

But it has to happen in order to really change.

We are capable of much more than we ever dreamed.

We are capable of greatness.

If we are willing to be torn down in the process.

Make it a great day.

Jake

Daily Attitude Email 06 10 20

We live, in fact, in a world starved for solitude, silence, and private: and therefore starved for meditation and true friendship. – C.S. Lewis

CS Lewis had a lot of interesting and deep thoughts about friendship (I think mostly in the 4 Loves book).

I hope that a positive side effect of the shelter in place orders is that we will come back together with a greater appreciation for each other.

Friendship takes on a whole new perspective when you haven’t seen one in a while.

Hopefully we can be more loving, kind and thoughtful towards others after this period apart.

Who do you need to reach out to and connect with?

How can you be more patient and kind with those in your life?

What should you do differently after this time away?

Make it a great day.

Jake

Daily Attitude Email 06 09 20

"Don’t find fault. Find a remedy." – Henry Ford

Finding faults in ourselves and others is the easy way out.

If you look for them, there will be plenty.

All of us are imperfect in our own ways. All of us fall short at one point or another.

What if we looked for the good in ourselves and others?

What if we looked for solutions instead of making excuses?

Focusing our efforts on improvement and progress instead of excuses and complaints will make us happier, healthier and more successful.

Take care today to focus on the positive.

Make it a great day.

Jake

Daily Attitude Email 06 08 20

Each season that comes and goes reminds me of Jim Rohn’s analogy of the seasons of life.

As he talks about summer, he discusses how summertime in life is a unique period of nourishing and defending our gardens.

He talks about not allowing the weeds of life to invade our gardens.

Some things in life can’t be tolerated, they must be decimated.

Some things we need to have a zero tolerance policy towards.

As you think about your life and any weeds that might creep in, what zero tolerance policy should you develop?

Do you need to give up sweets?

Do you need to end a relationship that isn’t good for you?

Do you need to put an end to an addiction that’s holding you back?

Make it a great day.

Jake

Friday Morning Toe Tapper

https://youtu.be/2MZxf-lQD-o

This song is a great reminder for me today.

God is in control.

He has a plan.

There’s no reason to worry.

The news is full of scary stories that leave me feeling out of control.

Technology doesn’t work as planned and leaves me feeling out of control.

Broncos break down and take too long to fix.

Still, there’s no reason to worry. God is bigger than any of this. And He loves us as if we were His own children.

Make it a great day.

Jake