I have come to believe that my capacity for joy in life is a function of my capacity to love imperfect people. And the most aggressive calisthenics of that capacity is practicing vulnerability at times of the most acute emotional risk. For example:
· Saying “I love you” with no expectation of reciprocity.
· Offering assistance at a time of crisis to those who have wronged me from a motive of guileless compassion.
· Expressing a desire to reconnect toward one who might see it as an opportunity to wound me.
· Fully admitting my errors in willing acceptance of others’ right to forever delay admitting theirs.
I received the above as part of a regular email I receive from the Crucial Conversations people.
The level of maturity expressed above escapes me most days, but I sure would like to get there.
Each day is an opportunity to work on my capacity to love imperfect people.
Each day is an opportunity to experience real joy.
Make it a great day.